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The average day should be comprised of a few basic things while you are awake.
1) Work (something usually not fun that you get paid to do) (example --- working)
2) Chores (something usually not fun that you don't get paid to do) (example --- laundry)
3) Fun (Something that you want to do) (example --- TV)
4) Betterment (something that can be fun but also makes your life better) (example --- school)
Something that is very important that I honestly believe in is --- Everything you do should have purpose. And you work so that you can have fun. I don't want to work if I don't get to have fun. What would be the point? Work for working sake? If life is pain, why live?
Fun and work are the easiest two things to determine. Economists for years debate the differences between Labor and Leisure. If you work more, you must be paid more. Even if you like your job, very few people would do it if they weren�t paid. And if you are being paid to do something you love you are either 1) Very good at it or 2) Getting paid very little.
Live by that rule. Don't be tricked into doing something for free. Don't ever trust a business to look after you, and a large business that isn't doing anything but giving you salary will screw you every chance it gets. Business exist to make money, and it doesn't matter if you work for them or not. They want your money and time.
(Small business is different, but large ones are cut throat)
The other reason why a person chooses to work is betterment. Betterment could be something as simple as running or as complicated as having a child. The point of betterment is doing something with your spare time that will benefit you in the long run, but might not be the easiest thing right now. Betterment is the thing that most rich people need to teach their children. The desire to do something that isn't fun but will effect their life in a positive way.
The other category is chores. There is a line where some people cross "betterment" and "chores". I have always found a chores to be something that you have to do - but doesn't really do much for you long term. The take your time and don�t really improve your life.
I believe trash to be a betterment. Taking out the trash makes your life better in the long run.
Kerbang thinks recycling is a betterment, and though its not fun to do, helps society in the long run.
A rug that is vacuumed will need to be vacuumed again. The two benefits of constantly vacuuming are 1) prolong the life of the run (thus saving money) or 2) Keep up appearances to be nicer. If you have enough money and care about looking nice - you pay someone to do it.
We used to have a wood burning stove and this is how we heated the house. Every summer about 3 cords of wood would be delivered to my driveway. My house was on the top of the hill and my driveway was level with the street. In the summer I had to toss the wood over a wall, stack it into a cart, pull the cart to the wood pile and stack it. In the fall I had to separate the wood into kindling and chop big pieces with the axe. In the winter I would haul the wood into the house and make the fire. This was a chore. My father felt it was a betterment.
Incidentally only you can decided what is a betterment and what is a chore. There is very little way for someone else to convince you that something they feel is a betterment isn't a chore. As a child, vacuuming doesn't make your life better. You could be out having fun and playing. Its only as you grow up that it may become a betterment to you.
Whenever anyone at work says "It will be good for you" it will be hellish and something no one wants to do (because you should be paid more to do it). Couples fight over perceived betterments. I often think that movies and TV and reading isn't fun but betterment and a activity that enriches which allows you more to talk about and draw from. Shelly sees them as either "fun" or a chore. Meanwhile making the bed I think for her is a betterment because it makes for a easier nighttime and getting into bed. For me it's a chore but its not that bad so I help out with it.
The problem is couples often times feel the other person should really be interested in what they think is the right way to do things. I keep trying to force my art movies; she keeps trying to get me to organize my mail. Compromise is the solution but it�s never easy to get there because it�s hard to make it fair. Often times successful relationships cannot be fair. It�s much like the relationship between parents and children. Children hardly give back, and that relationship will never ever become fair. In that sense having children must be seen as a betterment. If it's a chore - then you shouldn't have children.
But only you can decide these things. This makes relationships hard. It probably makes them fail.
What happens if two people can't share fun? Do they have to have fun separately?
What happens if two people can't agree on chores? Does one person resent doing all of them?
Do you have to take away someone�s fun in order to make things better for you?
I think the hardest thing to do is to share with someone else. Relationships are a tough battle sometimes of two people who totally disagree on matters. Compromise has to be reached or the relationship ends. But compromise isn�t an easy thing to achieve because you really have to give up something in order to improve the relationship. In that way relationships are betterments because it causes you to become more flexible and less stubborn.
My final point is this: If you are struggling with someone don�t give up because there is a solution. And the solution might be ending the relationship, but don�t default to that. Try to figure out why the other person feels strongly one way. If you can see their point of view, it will be much easier for them to see yours.
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