Comments:

Gumphood - 2004-04-05 10:11:08
I am so drained right now. I won't be that outward... this was just really awful.
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razor-vixen - 2004-04-05 10:11:26
Hey as long as I can keep reading, I'll be happy. I'm selfish that way I guess! It really sucks, what happened. I guess that's the possibility we all face...trying to stay anonymous yet have people read & enjoy.
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Gumphood - 2004-04-05 10:15:13
I wish I cold be cold and not care, but the fact is I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings and the fact that I did really eats me up. I feel awful for making someone else feel that way.
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dinguspie - 2004-04-05 10:38:05
Gump, I thought this was a very good response to the problem. I feel exactly as you do: i understnad why they would be upset, and angry, but I also think that the entry was viewed out of context. But it doesn't matter in the end what your intentions were, since, as you say, the bridge is burned. That sucks. But we've burned a lot of bridges already, even before this entry. Which sucks, too. One thing that was unfair, though, was the insinuation that, since you wrote that entry, you must be stuck in the past, a loser, etc. etc. Not at all. That was a part of your life, and you wrote about it. One entry out of 500 or whatever.
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Biffcakes - 2004-04-05 11:52:21
Sounds like you need a hug. Not a cyber one like people will type to show comfort, but a real one. You should go get someone to hug you. Also, if that was the last one of those kind of entries, I'm glad I got to read it when I did. Pity, though, this is. Good day.
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alyssa - 2004-04-05 12:15:03
okay, to voice the unfavorable opinion, these are common stereotypes in most high schools and i don't see why the ones who were major assholes in high school always act all surprised later on in life when they are told how miserable they made certain people. this is a general statement: not necessarily concerning this situation. while i don't think hurting someone is ever the answer, i wouldn't be surprised if there was an underlying degree of truth in your entry. i honestly don't know; i haven't read it. not to be cliche, but the truth hurts. and personally, when it comes down to truth vs. hurt... suck it up. but i do hope you feel better about the whole thing, gump. to insure my status as a walking oxymoron, you can't dwell on the past!
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Unclepumpkin - 2004-04-05 12:19:20
I snorted cocaine off the Bruces' grundles.
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sharon - 2004-04-05 12:48:14
I once got googled for "jennifer derilo" on my stats. I forgot what I written, so I googled that name as well [she is a good friend of mine] and the entry said "Jennifer derilo is one of the few people who can make me laugh really really hard." So I got lucky. If I'm talking about someone in the past whom I hate, I usually name them "Gertrude" or something. Not advice just a semi non sequitor to nothing at all. The end. Finito. I'm sorry, I'm bored.
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betty - 2004-04-05 13:08:39
there's some old quote that goes "Eavesdroppers never hear good about themselves" or some such thing like that. People could probably guess when they saw that it was your private diary and their names were mentioned in it NOT to read it. Everyone doesn't always have pleasant things to say about each other. When my "friends" found and read my diary they found the one cruel comment I made about another friend, I called him "well meaning but none too bright" and showed it to him. They all were so shocked that I would say something that wasn't extremely flattering, but I felt as if I had every right to write whatever I felt in my diary. And I do. As do you. They shouldn't read it. That's the whole point.
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bethany - 2004-04-05 13:16:53
WHAT WILL BECOME OF ME IF I HAVE NO MORE YOU?
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Gumphood - 2004-04-05 13:44:22
No No, listen close. As far as it goes...the person who was in the wrong...was me. It's clear. I said alot of things that I shouldn't have because they simply weren't true. I don't know who discovered it, but there were alot of people who stood to be offended in that entry. No blame should be shifted towards them. I mean that!
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alyssa - 2004-04-05 14:21:58
i'm just saying that no one can justifiably criticize someone else for saying something unpleasant, especially in this setting. we've all done and said mean things. we're not perfect beings. who is to criticize you for being human?
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alyssa - 2004-04-05 14:23:41
i'm just saying that no one can justifiably criticize someone else for saying something unpleasant, especially in this setting. we've all done and said mean things. we're not perfect beings. who is to criticize you for being human? although it wasn't nice of you to say. i'm not saying what you did was right either. i'm just saying it's not worth the melodrama. i mean, after all... this is NOT high school anymore. thank god.
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dingus - 2004-04-05 14:52:37
hey, call me at home (from work)
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kerbang - 2004-04-05 15:35:30
just to clarify: i said that you should stand by what you said not because you said it, but because you should say nothing you cannot stand by. yeah your opinions and feelings can change, but as long as you are honest with yourself and others then you should never have to fear criticism. now, if that entry was written not because it was true and honest, but because you wanted to be seen as funny or clever, well, you took a chance that the people you were making fun of would never see it.
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Judith - 2004-04-05 16:01:59
I sooo know how you feel Gumpness. Keep moving, keep being funny, and to hell with people who don't care for your humor.
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laural - 2004-04-05 17:36:35
Look you are a really nice guy who, while trying to be funny (and I am sure you were) hurt some people's feelings. If they can't get past the fact that that you were writing about HIGH SCHOOL they should go FUCK FUCK FUCK themselves hard in the ass. You are a wonderful person who is being made to feel bad about something you should have never been called out on in the first place. This is your diary and you have a right to say what you want to. Believe it. Love Laural
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scumthing - 2004-04-05 19:03:25
heya, don't worry so much about it k? You gotta put your behind in your past, cuz its the past! I think everyone has said something that has made them look assish before, even if the intentions weren't assish. For example today my friend Nicki made a comment about the surprisingly loud reaction that Erin had to something Nicki said, and I was like "yeah you're right. Erin can be scary. She might become an evil genius and take over the world!" and Erin heard me and I don't think she knew I was kidding and now she thinks I hate her or something, and that's totally not true. I was just being stupid and didn't mean anything by it, but now I regret saying that. Yeah I know, totally not as sucky as your situation, but anyways you're certainly not the only one, in fact I bet if you asked ppl they would be able to come up with a bunch of examples of when they've done stuff like that. Plus who cares what anyone else thinks. Stupid humans! It's your diary, so anyone who has a problem with it should go outside and play hide and go blow a goat! Just don't stop writing, please, becuase I've really enjoyed reading (;
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wondermart - 2004-04-05 20:50:27
do what you have to do. you'll be missed though.
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whistle blower - 2004-04-05 21:15:10
It's not the fact that these things took place in high school or that it is a "private" public diary. The names he used were REAL, the people have REAL jobs that can be altered if a co-worker finds something like this. I am all for a funny, witty passage about the dumb crap we do in high school, we all have them. When real names are used and are broadcast in a medium where anyone can find it is a bit on the foolish side. As for eavesdroppers, I am a third party that knows a few of the people named, nothing was said about me but my friends were cast in a most improper light. That's it, continue writing, just go about it in a smart way.
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Ellen - 2004-04-05 21:30:01
Oh, babydoll. I don't want you to leave. *hugs* I'm sorry this happened.
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a concerned CHS graduate - 2004-04-05 21:51:05
I want to respond to the recent entry added by this website's author. While I was one of the concerned people who originally responded to the inappropriate content of the Baseball dating essay, I want to say that I appreciate the writer's mature and humble response. I believe that we all make mistakes in life and whether we learn from these mistakes and grow as individuals is what really matters. Based on the writer's response, I feel better about the whole situation becuase I believe he understands that the manner in which this essay was presented was not as "funny" as he originally thought. So, thank you for your apology. The only message I have for the outsiders that responded is: your name was not in this essay, you do not know the people whose names were used, you have no idea who they are and what they were like in high school, and you are not friends with them today, so in responding to this situation, please take into consideration that in order to truly understand or empathize with the situation, you have to be a part of it or at least read the essay. However, I do agree with your point that the writer should NOT stop writer; as a writer myself, I too believe in private journaling, but everyone must be more concerned about how "private" everything really is on the Internet. Just so you know, the people who found this essay only had to put in a name included in the essay as a search on google--nothing in this search claimed that the site was a Private diary. Therefore, society, in general, needs to be more aware of how un-private any Internet site really is. In closing, I believe the message of using discretion online has been passed to this writer; that is what is most important so nobody else will have their feelings, names, or jobs jeopordized.
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The Boss of The CHS graduate - 2004-04-05 22:27:42
You're fired
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kerbang - 2004-04-05 22:35:32
It's troughton isn't it?
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Gumphood - 2004-04-05 22:43:19
I hope that the understand that I want to show is that I did the latter before I realzied the magnitude. I am really sorry. I am not sure who you are either, but again, I have a fondness for everyone I meantioned and I understand that people can really get screwed and loose their jobs in weird ways. Also it should re-cache in a few days. I am sorry.
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Unclepumpkin - 2004-04-06 01:33:39
I just did a google search for myself and found nothing. Not a damn thing. The internet has everything, but I don't even exist there. So who is the sadder case?
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alyssa - 2004-04-06 02:57:07
to insure gump will NEVER speak to me again, i must say that post alone, by the "concerned chs graduate," is enough to make me hate the person and think evil thoughts about him or her. talk about oozing self-righteousness. i mean, cry me a river. and as if the web address being at DIARYLAND wasn't a clue that this was some kind of personal blogging area. whine, whine.
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Unclepumpkin - 2004-04-06 08:56:39
Call me, I lost your work number
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sharon - 2004-04-06 09:33:01
jesus christ. this shit was in high school. I would only hope i had enough evil in me to make such an effect that somebody would write about ME in their diary. Even if I was a whorebag or compared to baseball or whatever.
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Gumphood - 2004-04-06 09:44:33
I think there are underling issues that everyone isn't aware of. I think that the concern that the person has are both real and valid. That is why I feel so bad and have tried so hard to undo the mistake.
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whistle blower - 2004-04-06 10:16:22
There's nothing like seeing on-line an accusation that you are a coke user. Or the parents of people mentioned that are in positions of responsibility. I think you should remove the names and repost it to remind people what was actually said. The post he originally wrote wasn't in high school, it was last year. the people he mentioned, at least the ones I know, aren't people who just trash someone just to do it. It's "wicked hard" to offend them. That's for you boston folks. Man don't feel bad, just learn. Times have changed. Very un-PC.
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kerbang - 2004-04-06 21:52:54
you know what? if it were my diary i would have ignored the comment. or possibly deleted it, and just removed the names of the people. obviously the chs graduate/whistle blower doesn't talk to mr. gump in real life, nor do any of the people mentioned. so if i were him, i couldn't care less how mad they were, i would just correct the error of putting a person's full name on a webpage searchable on the internet. which was pretty damn stupid. but beyond that, bite me.
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Gumphood - 2004-04-07 08:24:38
I think if my intention was to insult someone, then yes, I would leave it. But I didn't want to do that. That entry which I wrote nearly a year ago was a veiled attempt at funny on a new diary. It was long forgotten, and this is why I made such a grevious error. I hope they understand that while others might disagree I both understand and sympathise with their point. It's just really a bad and strange thing that happened...
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