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sarika - 2003-11-19 14:16:40
a daring and thought provoking entry. Nicely done x
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Erika - 2003-11-19 14:33:22
I was suprised that you ended this with God, but then it hit me that your next section is on God, so nice segue way! I'm curious though how many people are actually in search of "perfect love" I would think our rationality would prevent us from believing in it. Love is like Life in that you must set your boundries and hold to them. Saying that, I think "realistic love" is a better name for it. Then you also have to raise the distinction between "perfect love" and "unconditional love." Too much for my foggy brain to comprehend.
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rok - 2003-11-19 14:45:12
HUG. Nice.
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Erin - 2003-11-19 15:39:34
First, hate doesn't always begin where love ends. There are those few rare people that don't hate anyone, regardless of the idea that they 'should'. Second, you say we all seek the "perfect love", but you forgot to mention that everyone has a different opinion of perfection. Either that, or I missed it. Anyway, very interesting and thought provoking entry.
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Sharon - 2003-11-19 15:58:03
What crazy woman would prefer shopping over sex?! Speaking of which, I believe love doesn't always end in hate but rather, indifference- but that could just be me.
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Gumphood - 2003-11-19 16:11:32
yes...thats just you.
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dingus - 2003-11-19 17:18:30
I think it is possible to love someone all the time, even on the train. In the same way that I believe that washington, D.C. is the capital of the US even when i am showering, or when I am playing poker, etc., I love my mom even when I do X, Y, or Z. Love is not a mental state. It is not just a feeling. Neither is believing, understanding, intending, or wanting just a matter of having a certain 'inner feeling'--of belief, or understanding, or intending, or wanting. (Imagine performing a calculation with the feeling of understanding it, and getting it right; now with that feeling, but getting it wrong; now without the feeling, but getting it right; and, again, without the feeling, and, indeed getting it wrong. In which cases do you understand what you're doing? not just the cases in which you 'feel' like you understand. Rather, you understand the calculation when you get it right. With qualifications, of course.) The beginning of love is marked by intense feelings. But that is not all there is to loving someone. I don't feel any regret over the fact that that initial stage is gone with sara. What comes later is just as satisfying. Loving someone is making a choice; it is choosing that person. it is saying: you are my wingman. We will do this thing together. I think love can be so beautiful.
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kerbang - 2003-11-19 19:47:09
you're all wrong. love is a battlefield.
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Ellen - 2003-11-19 20:01:58
I like. *Hugs*
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hsing-mom - 2003-11-20 03:53:40
I think you're a bit off in your idea that love can't last with a couple, and I think it's because your definition of love as a twittery feeling is incorrect. That twittery feeling is just one aspect of the beginning of love (or infatuation). I've been married ten years, and yes, that feeling comes and goes, but the love has never been gone, even in the times when we were angry with each other. Love is the foundation, the putting-first of someone else. It involves the knowledge that this person is with you for life and you have so much to share and so much time to share it in; you get to know each other so intimately in so many ways and yet always there is something more to learn and know. It's based on so much more than a feeling. I hope for your sake that you'll find that out for yourself at some point in time. P.S. I read your diary with some regularity -- it was one of my first diaryland finds after I started my own diary -- and I enjoy what you have to say.
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